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How do I get attention of a girl
while chatting?
Be funny without being crude. Everyone loves to laugh. Getting a
girl to laugh can be a big part of getting (and keeping) her
attention. This doesn’t mean that you need to transform yourself
into a Jim Carrey-like comedian, but it does mean that you need
to figure out what kind of humor you are best at. It’s good to
remember that you don’t have to be funny every second, but
throwing some humor into a conversation is often a great way to
get a girl interested in you.
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No matter what sort of humor you’re using, its never good to
wait for the girl to laugh. Quick, witty humor that only pauses
for an instant is the way to go. If she thinks it’s funny,
she’ll laugh. But don’t expect her to openly guffaw at your
jokes--and never say something like “oh you didn’t think that
was funny?” if she doesn’t laugh. That will just cause a serious
amount of awkwardness to ensue.
Do your homework. If you don’t feel like you are a naturally
funny guy, watch comedians on TV or study the funny characters
in movies. See how they deliver their jokes, but don’t memorize
jokes and simply repeat them--that can come off as rather stiff
and stilted.
Use situational humors. While dishing out funny or witty
one-liners can get a girl to giggle, try embellishing your humor
but commenting on your situation or environment in a funny way.
Laugh when you genuinely think something is funny. Avoid
fake-laughing, as that is generally pretty easy to see through.
A real, whole-hearted laugh can be a very attractive thing.
Don’t use mean humor. While light teasing may be funny at first,
use it sparingly. No girl wants to have a dude spend the entire
night cutting her down with his words--even if he means it in a
joking way. On the other hand, self-deprecating humor (humor
that makes fun of yourself) can make a girl feel comfortable
with you quickly because it shows her that you have enough
confidence in yourself that you can easily make fun of yourself.
Do your best at whatever interests you. If you show passion for
whatever you are involved in, chances are you will be catching
more than a few female glances. Being passionate and good at
something is attractive--it shows that you care about something
other than yourself, you’re a hard worker, and you are
passionate. It also shows that you have ambition--you don’t just
want to be involved in something, you want to be the very best
you can be.
If you are on a sports team, work hard to be the star or team
captain. If you are on debate club, give it your all to lead the
debates. If you are in a photography or art class, don’t be
afraid to show off your artistic side (and skill.)
Don't hide what it is that you like. If you're happy, confident,
and enthusiastic, people will start to get interested in what
you’re interested in. Don't act like you hate what you actually
like; just play it off like it's not a big deal and sell the
really fun parts of what it is that you like.
Show her that you have some emotional depth. You don’t need to
weep openly if a sad topic gets brought up, but make sure you
are not an emotionless-robot when you are around her either.
This means sometimes discussing how something made you feel.
Saying things like “Oh man, that movie we watched in class today
made me wonder how it must have felt to be trapped on the
Titanic. It’s so scary and sad to think about” will show her
that you have empathy--you can relate to how others are feeling,
and feel things yourself.
Be attentive. When you talk to a girl, give her your full
attention. Listen carefully to what she says, and you may learn
a lot about her and discover interests that you have in common.
Ask her lots of questions. This will signal to her that you're
genuinely interested in her apart from her looks. Ask her what
activities she likes, what music she’s into, what movies she’s
seen recently. Ask her about her family, her aspirations and
hopes. Any question that is sincerely and respectfully asked is
game.
Give her time to speak. If you ask her questions, give her time
to express herself, and don't feel bad if she's talking a lot.
Remember, her talking a lot is a good sign.
Be confident in yourself. Confidence is a big turn on for most
girls. If you walk with your head held high, don’t hesitate when
discussing something that you know a lot about, or simply walk
up to a girl without hesitation, you will get noticed. Know that
you are an awesome guy--when you display confidence in yourself,
it shines through and girls will notice.
Bear in mind that you should not be too cocky. Confidence and
cockiness are actually separate things. When you are confident,
you have faith in yourself without holding it over others. When
you are cocky, you are confident and you want everyone (really
everyone) to know it. Cockiness can be a turn off for girls.
They want someone who believes in himself without letting
everyone know how awesome he is, all the time.
Make eye contact. If you want a girl to notice you, start by
noticing her first. Whether you are in class or at a bar, eye
contact is a key part of getting a girl’s attention. Glance at
her, but when she sees you looking, look away. Repeat this and
then hold eye contact for a moment and throw in a smile if you
feel like its the right time to do so, then look away again.
Doing this will arouse her interest, and will also hint to her
that you are interested. If she is interested too, she will keep
glancing at you to see if you’re still glancing at her. It's a
cycle that will clue her in to the fact that you are interested.
Act like a gentleman around girls. Girls tend to have a
different humor and perspective than guys, so being aware of and
sensitive to these differences is important when it comes to
getting (and keeping) a girl’s attention.
Do common things that are gentlemanly, like opening the door for
a girl, letting her cut you in line, and saying "excuse me."
Doing the small things is really easy, and girls pay attention
to them much more than guys do.
Do Everything which is require to get the attention.,
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